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Monday, December 7th, 2009
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Tuesday, November 3rd, 2009
10:48 pm	Expectations There have been many conversations, essays and advice articles on things that help a D/s relationship be successful. Probably the only common point is that each relationship is different. As I have observed other relationships and even had some experience with relationships that did not succeed, I have come to realize that there may be more common things in why relationships fail rather than why they succeed. One of those common issues has to do with expectations. When a new relationship begins, each partner has expectations of what the relationship should be. There are many factors that influence what our expectations are for the relationship. The first has to do with how well you know yourself. What are the things you need from a relationship? What factors are important to you in a relationship? What values do you have in the areas of right and wrong, morality, commitment, financial matters, religion, or family? These are things that an individual should spend time with introspective evaluation so they know and understand the answer to the question of personal values. Rarely will a relationship succeed if the partners have widely different values in these areas. Once the individual knows and understands these personal values of them self, then they should begin early in a relationship exploring these same values in their potential partner. When a relationship does not have common ground in these base personal values, the ecosystem of the relationship does not have enough resources to sustain itself. Not many people think of a relationship as an ecosystem. Loosely defined, an ecosystem is the relationship of the organisms and their environment. When you are in a relationship, your environment is filled with your partner. If your expectations are vastly different, then your environment has fewer resources and more predators that threaten the relationship. An ecosystem can only be self sustaining if the resources are high and the predators are few or at least balanced. The self sustaining relationship lasts because the resources are similar to the expectations of the partners. The common interests, values and commitment feeds the relationship and allows it to grow. If the expectations are not in line with the resources, then the needs are not being met and the resources diminish. What are your expectations of a relationship? Do you know your needs? Do you know the expectations and needs of your potential partner? If not, then it is important to find out now. One should never think that the potential partner will change over time. Rarely will a person change in their personal values. Also one should not "settle" or accept less than their expectations, because this will only erode the relationship due the the constant question of what if? I can truly say that I now know how much success a relationship can have when the expectations of the partners are matched. We live it every day. (Comment on this)
Sunday, November 1st, 2009
3:42 pm	boy bob Harris -- Still Teaching Recently I was asked to provide some comments and information about boy bob Harris for an Earned Leather Project that a friend of Mine is working on. She was directed to Me because I am one of those that knew boy bob. Some time ago there was a dungeon in Atlanta called The Sanctuary of a Dark Angel. For many it was the Mother Church, the source of spiritual energy, Home for our family. The Sanctuary was owned and operated by Master Doug Harris and His boy bob. So many of us came to feel at home there, feel and come to understand the comfort of family. Master Doug and boy bob helped many of us grow in our understanding of both the lifestyle and ourselves. I consider Myself very lucky to have been a part of this family. My thoughts today are focused on boy bob. boy bob died in March of 2002. He left a mark on the lives of all that knew him. There were many a Sunday when I would wake up and make the 3 1/2 hour drive to go visit the Sanctuary, even in the later times when the Sanctuary was not open on Sunday. I would walk up to the door and ring the bell, either Master Doug or boy bob would come to the door and let Me in. Both had still been asleep from the late night before, but always welcomed Me in. Sometimes they would just say, make yourself at home I am going back to sleep for a while. On those days I would sit around and breathe in the essence of the Sanctuary. Often I would start doing some clean up to help out as they slept. Later when they would wake and come down, we would have these long conversations about many topics. I often felt as a sponge, just soaking in the knowledge and wisdom of these men. It was a time when I truly came to understand that a dominant could learn much from a submissive. I would often figuratively sit at the feet of this slave, boy bob, and drink in the words he used to explain philosophy, understanding, and wisdom related to the dymanics of this lifestyle. These two men, Master Doug Harris and boy bob earned the respect of not only the local community, but throughout the nation. If there was such a thing as Camelot of BDSM, the Sanctuary of a Dark Angel was that place. My life was changed and improved because of the experiences there and the opportunity to be a part of that family. Thank You both Master Doug and boy bob (2 Comments |Comment on this)
Sunday, July 12th, 2009
9:22 am	A Leather Family Event People in this lifestyle often talk of Leather Family and the things involved. Yesterday My Leather Family did something that was amazing. On July 17 of this year, I will reach the age of 60. A few weeks ago I was asked by some of the family if they could organize a "special" birthday event. After receiving permission, I was then pretty much kept in the dark about the event. My family organized a party based on the old Dean Martin Celebrity Roasts. We all gathered in our back yard on a perfect weather day. Tables were set up as a dias and then many of the family took their turns with their part in this roast. Each related stories about Me and the interactions they and others have had with Me over the years. Some were very funny, some were very touching and all were filled with family love. Memories were recalled and new memories were created. Our boy, had created a audio tape where he did impersonations of such celebrities as Howard Cosell, Mohammad Ali,and many others offering Me congratulations on reaching such an old age. Following the roast, there was the traditional hamburgers and hot dogs and some adult beverages, picture taking and story telling. The party lasted from some arriving around noon, till well into the late hours of the night. Oh, and did I mention the birthday spankings that jackie got on My behalf and the other play scenes that added to the festivities. I would be very amiss if I didn't say a big thank you for the erotic striptease and lap dance provided by a very sexy male puppy with some interesting art work on his front. I want to say thank you to each of My Leather Family for such a wonderful Birthday. I love you all (11 Comments |Comment on this)
Sunday, May 24th, 2009
11:07 am	Circadian Rhythms and the D/s Relationship I would like to begin with a disclaimer. I am not a trained psychologist nor do I have any expertise in dealing with emotional issues. However, I do, occasionally, have good observation skills that help me in understanding things around me. Sometimes I even have one of those epiphany moments that open my eyes to better understanding. The relationship between a dominant and submissive always has its challenges, as does any relationship. These challenges appear on many levels and in many facets. No one essay could address all the possible issues one faces in a relationship. The best we can do is to look at one facet at a time. The subject of this observational writing addresses the effect of circadian rhythm on the partners in a relationship. A circadian rhythm is a roughly-24-hour cycle in the biochemical, physiological or behavioural processes of living entities, including plants, animals, fungi and cyanobacteria (see bacterial circadian rhythms). The term "circadian", coined by Franz Halberg,[1] comes from the Latin circa, "around," and diem or dies, "day", meaning literally "approximately one day." The formal study of biological temporal rhythms such as daily, tidal, weekly, seasonal, and annual rhythms, is called chronobiology. Circadian rhythms are endogenously generated, and can be entrained by external cues, called Zeitgebers, the primary one of which is daylight. These rhythms allow organisms to anticipate and prepare for precise and regular environmental changes. (the definition from wikipedia) Each of us has our own specific circadian rhythm. Each of us have our own sleep needs and physiologic functional patterns. The circadian rhythm not only has an effect on our sleep pattern, it also controls the way our bodies produce certain hormones. These sleep patterns and hormone production have significant influence on how and when we are functioning at our best. They also have an influence on how we respond to those around us, including our partners. How does knowing this help us make our relationships more successful? In an attempt to apply this information, I want to make some generalized observations. In doing so, I realize that when one generalizes, we always overlook the exceptions and we must be aware that not everyone fits the generalization. That said, I have observed that some basic differences exist between how men and women function. Men tend to be more logical in how we approach most things. We usually deal with issues in a cause-effect manner. We notice (or have pointed out to us) an issue and try to analyze what to do based on our cause-effect mentality. However, sometimes men can also be stupid. When I use the term stupid in this context, I am referring to behavior and not intellect. We often just don’t “get it” when an emotional facet is part of the equation. For many of us men, we use what I call the BEKA approach to relationship issues. We usually Blunder along unaware until we find Enlightenment which gives us more Knowledge that can be used to help us formulate an Action to address the issue. We can be oblivious to things around us and need that occasional nudge to bring us back to point. Women tend to be more influenced by emotions.(refer back to my comments about generalizations). Women tend to “feel” more and respond to feelings. How is this important to understanding? Circadian Rhythms have a big influence on hormone production and many of these hormones influence mood and feelings, as well as how we respond to others around us. This means that the time of day could significantly impact how one responds. Example: morning people vs. night owls To apply this information to the dynamics of dominant and submissive, we need only to invoke some basic common sense. When you are in a relationship, it is important to identify the circadian rhythm of your partner and understand the influence it has on them as well as knowing the same about yourself. This allows both partners to know when, during the day, to best communicate regarding issues of importance. If one is tired, sleepy, emotional, or distracted, the results of any attempt to discuss important issues will be impaired. Going back to the BEKA system, the last step is action. It is important that once we become aware of the influence the circadian rhythm can have on each of us, the actions we take to apply this knowledge are important. Just knowing this is not enough, we must put into practice actions that apply this knowledge to our interactions with our partners. Like anything of value, it takes effort and application to make a success. (Comment on this)
Wednesday, April 1st, 2009
3:50 pm	Bridge Maintenance There once was a man that had great pride in his accomplishments. His most prized achievement was the bridge he built. People would come from far and wide to view and to travel on such a well built bridge. The man would take time to speak to those that came and show them the marvels of his bridge. He would point out that the strongest of materials had been used in the construction and the latest in technology had gone into the design. He would boast of the care and workmanship used in each step of the process. One day as he was showing off his bridge, his helper came to say that the rain had washed away some of the soil around the base of the bridge. The man was busy and thought he would tend to it later because he had other things to do now that was more important. More people heard of the bridge and the man was proud of how his fame had spread for it was indeed a fine bridge. Everyone that studied the bridge made comment about how unique was the design and how strong the bridge must be. As he was telling a crowd of people about the merits of the bridge, his helper came to him and said that they should spend some time painting the bottom of the bridge where the river water had began to wear away the protective paint, but the man was busy and besides, you couldn’t really see the bottom of the bridge. Late one night during a heavy fog, a boat lost in the darkness hit the bridge. The man came to inspect the bridge and determined that there was some damage but still the bridge stood strong. His helper asked if they should begin the repair of the bridge right away but the man said not today. We have visitors coming to see our fine bridge and we do not want to interrupt the tour with the minor construction repair. Time passed and the bridge became renowned. The bridge became the very symbol of strength for the community. The helper came and told the man that some rust had formed on the metal structure from the earlier damage and this damage should be repaired and painted, but the man said not today. The people from the town are coming today to celebrate all the bridge has done for us and the town. The next day as the man went to his bridge, he found it broken and destroyed. The rubble was lying in the river, a symbol of neglect. The Master awoke from a troubled sleep, cold sweat dropped from His brow. He looked over and saw His slave sleeping soundly next to Him. He reached over and touched her. She turned and said good morning Master, are your friends coming over today for the meeting? He looked at her and thought for a moment. No, He said, I have some painting I need to do and I must do this Myself. Copyright 2009 NCMaster (Comment on this)
Thursday, January 22nd, 2009
4:16 pm	Growth and Behavior Change of the Submissive Much is said and written regarding the “Training” of a submissive, when in reality what we are actually trying to do is change behaviors. The submissive comes to you with a given set of behaviors, some desirable, some not so desirable. It is the role of the dominant to identify the good behaviors and reinforce them while identifying the undesirable behaviors and changing or eliminating those. Some dominants take the position that could be described as “It’s My way or the Highway”. That may work for some, however, that approach often results in one mistake and you are out. Behavior change takes time and the submissive needs time to make the changes; particularly, behaviors that are deep seated from cultural or childhood experiences. A relationship between the dominant and submissive is something that is of great value when developed properly. Each brings to the relationship contributions that improve the lives of both. When a submissive brings undesirable behaviors that are deep seated, these take time to modify or eliminate. The most effective way to do this is to identify the basis of the behavior. Often these behaviors are not willful disobedience; they are rooted in things learned from an early age or early experiences that have been almost a survival reaction to life experiences. Survival mode is difficult to overcome. The dominant should be able to distinguish between willful disobedience and behavior based on past experiences. Changing behavior patterns is a process of educating the submissive to a new reality; teaching them a new philosophy. Developing new standards of what is acceptable and expected takes time and reinforcement. Creating an atmosphere of trust and positive reinforcement is most effective in being successful in this endeavor. Helping them to understand that their survival needs are changing is a key point. The submissive must be convinced that the behavior change is a positive thing for their growth and well being. No significant behavior change will occur until this has been achieved. Also, the dominant must be consistent in their approach and have the patience to allow the change to evolve. From this approach, both the submissive and the dominant will find a far more successful relationship where long term growth is on going. This is not intended to be an all encompassing explanation. This is more about sparking discussion on how to change behaviors from bad to good. It is more a philosophy than a recipe. (2 Comments |Comment on this)
Saturday, October 11th, 2008
8:28 am	Trust In any discussion involving D/s relationships (both with a life partner and lifestyle friends), the topic of trust is usually one of the most discussed. Much is said about how important trust is and the need for building trust and not betraying trust. Each of us needs to trust our partners and the people with which we are involved. However, over the last few weeks, I have been thinking about how trust is built and how it evolves. Our lives have many compartments. There are parts of our lives that deal with our careers, our finances, our vanilla friends, our partners, and our lifestyle as well as many other things. It occurs to Me that we tend to build trust one compartment at a time. It is possible to trust someone in one area but completely distrust them in other areas. As an example, it is possible to trust someone to not harm you during a scene, while not trusting them to gossip about you behind your back. It is possible to trust someone to be financially responsible while not trusting them to be ethical in dealings with others. I am sure that each of us knows someone that is good at doing some things and we can trust them to get these things done while not trusting them at all in other matters. Trust is vital to any relationship, but total trust in all compartments only comes over time. When total trust in not present, the relationship is weaker. Yes, you may trust those things that you know you can, but the knowledge that there are areas where your trust is not strong limits the depth the relationship can have. This pertains to not only your life partner, but also to your friends/acquaintances. If you think about the people you know, is there things you know you can count on them for, while also knowing that there are things that you just can’t trust them with? Any time trust is limited, it sets limits or boundaries on the strength of the relationship. You may still have dealings with these people, but the dealings are guarded. There is less openness and we tend to involve these people only in the areas of our lives where we do trust them. I think it is time that each of us should take stock of our lives and work on being trustworthy in all areas of our lives. If we do, our partners, our friends as well as ourselves will benefit. (2 Comments |Comment on this)
Sunday, October 5th, 2008
10:41 am	Drama: Unwanted, Unnecessary, Unproductive, and Sometimes Self-Serving Over the years, I have been actively involved in many Lifestyle groups and it seems that one common factor is the presence of those members that only thrive when they are creating some form of drama. Rather than using their energies and resources to improve the work of the group, they prefer to be a divisive force that disrupts and interferes with the mission of the group. I think it is important to remember that first and foremost, each of us became members because we wanted to be a part of like minded people and learn more about this lifestyle and how to enjoy it. Usually the motivation is a combination of wanting to improve ourselves and a sense of giving back to the community while cultivating friendships and relationships with those that share our interests. We realize that groups need people that volunteer and step up to do the work that needs to be done so the group can function and meet the needs of its members. These volunteers give their time and abilities, often at their own expense, to carry out the work of the group. In doing so they also place themselves in a position where their actions are sometimes criticized because others disagree with what is being done. Rather than address the disagreement through a democratic process within the rules of the group, rather than step up and volunteer to do the work themselves, some prefer to create disharmony and drama that serves no useful purpose. Yes, sometimes mistakes are made and the mistakes need to be addressed and corrected. However, I had much rather see mistakes made from doing something than from doing nothing. It is My opinion that if you disagree with the way things are done, then you put yourself out there and volunteer to help or even put yourself out there and become one of the elected officers of the group so you are in a decision making position. At the very least, you address the mistakes through the rules of the group in a civil manner. People that take cheap shots from the sidelines or do things covertly to undermine the work of the group and the individuals that volunteer to make things happen are not helping the effort or the mission of the group. We should each ask ourselves, who is part of the problem or who is part of the solution. To those that step up and do what needs to be done, you have My sincere appreciation and support. To those that sit back and snipe, most people recognize what you are doing and your motivation. I ask that each of us become a part of the solution. Each of us has something to offer and improve the things our groups can do. Step up and take the challenge and give back to your community. (8 Comments |Comment on this)
Saturday, September 27th, 2008
8:55 am	Capex ---- Recognizing An Opportunity Capex has served the local BDSM community for many years and has earned its reputation for high quality presentations and reaching out to its contributors in many ways. During the years we have had some growing pains, but in each case our group has grown in maturity and became stronger. Whenever I have talked with people outside of North Carolina, Capex is known and respected. This weekend, Capex is taking another step in growth. Last year The Fetish Fair Fleamarket Carolinas (FFF) had its inaugural year and is back for the second year. This organization is establishing a strong regional event that affords our community opportunity to network with other like minded people and to attend presentations on lifestyle topics that expand our understanding. Once a mind is expanded by a new idea, you cannot go back, you grow and learn. The Capex Board of Directors has stepped up and guided our group into being an important part of this new event. Capex is leading the way in becoming a part of the new reality. We are serving our contributors and reaching out to other groups and organizations to join together to make us all stronger. Other parts of the country have powerful, exciting, and well attended Lifestyle events but this area has not had such an event. Charlotte is an ideal location for an event to become established. Capex is the perfect group to take the lead in helping our community grow. Capex will continue to have our regular meetings and presentations and once a year join forces with FFF to make this event one of the best in the country. There has already been some indications from other groups and organizations that future cooperative events could be established. Our Board of Directors is leading our group into the future with vision. The cost of providing learning and growth opportunities can be shared with other groups for the benefit of all. Reaching out to others in our area to join forces will make us all stronger by involving more in the community. I encourage each of us to become more active and participate. This vision of what can be will include all that want to grow. It is time for our local community to take advantage of where we live and the vast base of knowledge around us. Go to FFF this weekend and follow that with greater participation in your local groups. (1 Comment |Comment on this)
Saturday, September 20th, 2008
11:18 am	A Thank You to Capex Board I wanted to take a few minutes and Say something about our current board of directors. In all the years I have been a contributor of Capex, I have seen us go through good times and times that were a bit more trying. In My opinion, the changing economy and the unexpected need to find new hotel venues have made the job of our board members difficult over the last few months and has presented the biggest challenges any of the Capex boards have had to deal with. Things are just costing more these days and each of us needs to understand that Capex needs our support more now than ever. Over the years Capex has provided the community with a place to socialize and network with like minded people. We have enjoyed a safe comfortable environment that allows us all to learn and grow within our own lives and needs. Each one of us owes a debt of gratitude to the organization and the people that have kept it going. Our current board members have worked hard to continue the traditions established over time and have done so well. I am calling on each of us to acknowledge how much Capex has meant to us and reach out to help keep Capex the best group in the southeast. Each of us should step up and offer not only our attendance at the events, but volunteer on some level to help the group do more. Even an hour or two of your time on the day of the event would be a great help. Capex has been very valuable to Me and I am sure each of us has grown because of our affiliation with Capex. Our borad members have done an amazing job at continuing the traditions and I want to say a personal thank you. The coming events are going to be very exciting and I hope to see all of you there. Let's finish the year with a boost of support. (Comment on this)
Saturday, September 13th, 2008
11:04 am	Role Models I have heard it said many times that the people we surround ourselves with influence our lives and our behaviors. Even as a kid, I remember being told, “if you lay down with dogs, you will get up with fleas”. It is a common sense kinda thing, but all too often we as individuals do not practice what we know. Each of us should evaluate what we practice and evaluate if our practices are in line with our goals. Often in the BDSM community we find people that are searching for their perfect mate and bemoaning the fact that they just can’t seem to find the right one. Perhaps, we are looking in the wrong places and our search involves the wrong people. I have noticed people in the community that seem to go from one relationship to another without success and constantly having to deal with issues and problems. It is My belief that we should have a personal plan and specific strategies to help us reach our goals. First, one must take care of any personal issues that may exist. Things like personal health, financial stability, and mental stability are important. Only when a person has their personal issues under control can they actually succeed in a relationship with others. Once these issues are in order, you need to clearly define what it is that you seek in a partner. The qualities and characteristics you seek should match yours in areas of morality, core values, sense of right and wrong, and attitude toward responsibilities. Once you understand what you seek, then you should begin to cultivate friendships with people that share these values and traits. Look first for friends that you would enjoy spending time with even outside of the kink community. These friends do not have to be potential partners, just friends. This association with people that have the traits you seek will most often have other friends with similar traits, so your network grows. Also try to find people in stable, successful relationships that are of the nature you seek. Spend time with them and notice how they interact with each other. Use them as your model. Learn how they cultivate behaviors that are healthy for their relationship. Watch what they do in those times when the world is not watching. Finding people in good relationships and using them as your model is a very good way to learn how a relationship works. It also increases your potential through networking to meet others that share your values that may become partners. As I think about our closest friends, I realize that we have surrounded ourselves with people that are in very successful D/s based relationships and people that are single but looking for the same thing. We become what we do each day. (1 Comment |Comment on this)
Sunday, August 24th, 2008
5:11 pm	So, ncmaster, your LiveJournal reveals... You are... 0% unique and 0% herdlike. When it comes to friends you are popular. In terms of the way you relate to people, you are keen to please. Your writing style (based on a recent public entry) is conventional. Your overall weirdness is: 21 (The average level of weirdness is: 28. You are weirder than 46% of other LJers.) Find out what your weirdness level is! (1 Comment |Comment on this)
Saturday, August 23rd, 2008
10:18 am	Another If You Build It, They Will Come Sometimes an idea is born at the right time and place and all the stars align and things just fall in place. One week ago (from last night) septembernc and I were at a local lifestyle bar and talking. He is current title holder for Mr. NC Leather. He told Me about an idea He had about setting up opportunities for dominants to network and share experiences and learn from each other. I agreed that it was a great idea and one that I thought was needed. To help Him with the idea, the next day, I went to the fetlife site and set up a group called Carolina Dominants. I wrote in the group description a basic thought of what septembernc had outlined. Within an hour there were 5 members, now a week later we have 70 members and a workshop set up to provide the opportunity to begin the work of the group. The responses posted and the comment threads in the group have simply been amazing. The need for dominants to have opportunity to learn from each other, to mentor new people, pass on traditions, to transition the next generation, and to generally form a network of support seems to have reached a point where the time is right. I can see this group reaching far beyone just the Carolinas. We are already getting members from surrounding states. The direction seems to be for the group to have quarterly meetings that move around the area. This has all happened so fast that the group is still evolving in just where we will go. If you are interested, check it out at fetlife.com Carolina Dominants (Comment on this)
Tuesday, August 19th, 2008
6:44 pm	A Mental/Emotional Balancing Act A couple of weeks ago I posted that My step daughter and her partner are entering the D/s Lifestyle as a couple. I am very proud of how they have embraced the journey and the way they are proceeding. However, I find Myself doing a mental and emotional balancing act. I am working on keeping the balance between surrounding them with known, trusted, knowledgeable people to be a support group from which to learn, and letting them find their own way. As a dominant, I want to be involved and to manage, if even from a distance, their early journey so they do not get caught up in bad situations. However, I also understand the importance of walking your own path. I value My path into this lifestyle and learned much from My mistakes along the way. I fully understand that each must grow and learn from their own experiences. I was fortunate in that I was surrounded by some very knowledgeable people as I traveled that early path and because of that, I avoided many of the pitfalls. Hence My balancing act. Providing a support group, while allowing their growth to evolve in its own way. So far so good, but this is one mentoring relationship that will definately be life long. (4 Comments |Comment on this)
Saturday, August 16th, 2008
3:49 pm	Dominants Learning From Each Other A friend of Mine had a suggestion that I think has merit. There are several opportunities for submissives to go to retreats/workshops to improve themselves and grow in their understanding. However, at least in the Carolinas, there is not that many opportunities for dominants to do the same thing. We would like to explore the possibility of creating such opportunities and provide some workshops/retreats/events for dominants to come together and learn from each other and recognized knowledgeable Dominants. Opportunities to discuss and learn about various aspects of the Top side of D/s M/s relationships.If you are a dominant and have an interest in this endeavor, I have set up a group in www.fetlife.com called Carolina Dominants. Please go there and join and share your thoughts and ideas. (Comment on this)
9:01 am	Your result for The Perception Personality Image Test... HFDS - The Coach Humanity, Foreground, Detail, and Shape You perceive the world with particular attention to humanity. You focus on what's in front of you (the foreground) and how that is affected by the details of life. You are also particularly drawn towards the shapes around you. Because of the value you place on humanity, you tend to seek out other people and get energized by being around others. You like to deal directly with whatever comes your way without dealing with speculating possibilities or outcomes you can't control. You are highly focused on specific goals or tasks and find meaning in life by pursuing those goals. You prefer a structured environment within which to live and you like things to be predictable. The Perception Personality Types: Take The Perception Personality Image Test at HelloQuizzy (2 Comments |Comment on this)
Thursday, August 14th, 2008
11:25 am	Providing a Place of Acceptance Over the years we have cultivated a group of kink family that have enjoyed coming to our home and being able to just be themselves and free to express themselves in any way they are comfortable. We have several cook outs and social events in our home each year that our friends look forward to. Many will just drop by on any given weekend and just hang out. This in itself is not all that unusual. However, this atmosphere of acceptance has spilled over to include our daughter and some of her friends. Now before anyone gets upset, we have always be most appropriate in any involvement of our daughter and her friends. We have just made our home a place where even she and her friends also feel free to just be who they are. Our daughter is now 20 and is exploring her place in the D/s lifestyle with her partner. They are both students in college now. She has one friend that for several years now has been exploring gender issues. This friend has been working on gender change from biological female to trans male. He has finally consulted a doctor that is working with him regarding the transition. His parents are not nearly as accepting. Yesterday, after finally getting the first prescription for hormone therapy, he came straight to our home with the prescription to take his first injection. It really makes Me feel good that even the friends of our daughter feel an acceptance here in our home. They have been able to talk freely about their thoughts and ideas regarding sexuality, sexual identity, and even the gender issues. They have felt comfortable in asking questions, knowing that they would get open honest answers without being judged. This doesn’t mean that our home was a haven for misconduct; they all know the rules and are very proper in all conduct. However, it is satisfying to know that we have created a place of learning, exploring, and openness where all are welcome to grow. (4 Comments |Comment on this)
Wednesday, August 6th, 2008
6:52 pm	Interesting Your Political Profile: Overall: 50% Conservative, 50% Liberal Social Issues: 25% Conservative, 75% Liberal Personal Responsibility: 75% Conservative, 25% Liberal Fiscal Issues: 50% Conservative, 50% Liberal Ethics: 0% Conservative, 100% Liberal Defense and Crime: 100% Conservative, 0% Liberal How Liberal Or Conservative Are You? (Comment on this)
10:06 am	Servant's Retreat II Just wondering if anyone else on this list is attending Servant's REtreat II. I am sending My annie. Would like to know who else is going. (5 Comments |Comment on this)